Is She Getting You Crazy!!!!! C'mon Approach Her........
There are many ways to reveal a crush on a fellow college student. With smart strategy, you should be able to make the crush mutual. Here are some methods of winning your objective:
1. Plan frequent “accidental” encounters with that special person. Show up in the lunch room and ask if it would be OK if you sit in the next chair. Also, appear in the stands of a college athletic event and ask if the nearby seat is already taken. Maybe you'll visit the library, walk past with a stack of books and wearily put them down on the table next to that special person. Any of these ploys should start a conversation, friendly or more so.
3. Use the same opportunity to meet and mingle if that special person is a member of a spa, health club or goes regularly to the campus gym. Don’t make it seem too obvious, but always a happy coincidence when you show up to join in.
4. Confess some problems about coping with difficult subjects. Even if you don’t, fake it and ask to be a study buddy. For example, “Gee, I just don’t think I can pass this upcoming math exam. Could you spend sometime with me and help me get it right?”
5. Tweet and twitter the prospective crushee frequently. Don’t be overwhelming and pushy, but periodically send some funny notes, bits of news, photos and other casual stuff. If you want to be specific, mention some on- and off-campus entertainment events you’d like to attend. Hint, hint.
6. When an upcoming event is appropriate for students to go in a group, ask the potential crush to join in on it. Mention that you and your gang of friends plan to attend a concert, play, beach party or game. Then casually offer with a “Wanna go along?”.
7. If your potential crushee has a campus or off-campus volunteer job, sign up for a one-time event, such as a fundraiser for a homeless center. If the person is active as a hospital aide, you may decide to do the same on a regular basis. In that way, you’re bound to be spending considerable time together.
8. If all else fails, take the direct approach and say what you want to say. For example, “Doggone it all! Can’t you see that I have a crush on you, and I’m doing everything possible to get better acquainted? Let’s just drop the pretense, go out on a date together, and get to know each other better!”
How to Talk to Your Crush Without Being Crushed
Have a crush, but wimp out every time you want to say something to them? You're probably afraid of rejection or that you'll do something stupid. Know that your chances are most likely not as bad as you believe they are (especially if you and your crush are already friends), and if you don't do anything, your chances will be zero.
Steps
- Try to get over your nervousness. The only way to over come your nervousness is from within. Before blabbering, think about what you want to say. Take your time but don't take too long. Find a comfortable moment to say. Remember take your time, say what you have to say, don't scream. (Summary: Be comfortable to overcome this obstacle.)
- Practice in the mirror. You'll want to make sure you know what you're going to say, but dont make it sound rehearsed.
- Approach your crush when he or she is alone, in a casual situation.
- Introduce yourself and tell them a little about yourself. The important thing is to start a conversation.
- Ask your crush about himself or herself. Try some simple questions: "What teachers do you have?" "Where do you like to hang out?" (watch these first 2 since you might be known as a stalker) "What music do you listen to?" But, don't make it an interrogation. Just talk to them like you would talk to anyone else.
- The key is to talk in stories. Like if he or she has the same teacher as you then talk about the teacher. Tell him or her about the funny thing that your teacher said. Anything but question after question. You want to talk about the answers and if theres nothing else to talk about transition into another question. Remember even a simple compliment can start a conversation between the two of you. Another alternative is to talk about other girls. Dote on how much fun you had with them, this will make them jealous and in turn, want you more.
- If you're not as nervous as some people, ask this person if they would like to hang out with you sometime, go to a movie; maybe even go to dinner for something to eat (on a date). Take it slow, you don't want to rush them.
- Always give your crush eye contact and don't look anywhere else so that you'll be less nervous
- Never talk about their personal life or their previous girlfriends or boyfriends until you are going out, you might give them the wrong impression.
- Have a back-up plan Maybe you might stutter and look so silly! Or if your asking him a yes or no question he anwsers no (or yes depending on the question) Think of what to say or do. I do and it works out perfectly! You will be amazed!
- Remember pick a good spot! If you see him in the hallway, perfect. Try to have no more than 3 to 4 people around so if you make a fool of yourself or he makes you feel stupid, you won't die.
- If you have already come out and told your crush about your feelings, and they will still talk to you, that doesn't necessarily mean that they like you. Don't force it.
- Remember to always love yourself. That way, even if it doesn't work out, you will always have someone who will see it your way!
Tips
- If your crush tries to run before class ends, take this as a hint that you need to quit; that she/he's not interested. This generally happens in middle school.
- If your crush smiles a lot and says huh when you are talking, he or she might like you too, but there's always a possibility she/he is just polite.
- If your crush is giggling or blushing when they are near you, he/she likes you. Or if he/she is staring at you and giving kissy face back at you, he/she likes you.
- If she/he doesn't seem to want to talk to you, she/he either doesn't like you or is shy around you. Be sure which one it is before continuing. Most likely it is shyness, unless you smell bad/act like a jerk/the girl is too shallow. Always watch your hygiene.
- Practice what you're going to say or you will panic, which you shouldn't do.
- After you know what your crush likes, ask them to go with you to a place she or he would really like (such as a concert featuring his or her favorite singer/band).
- Don't think the worst; always think the best.
- If your conversation doesn't go as planned, don't give up, try again (that's if he/she responded at least once or twice). Don't be a perfectionist.
- Find something that you both are interested in before you start to talk to him/her. It will make things easier. You need some common ground.
- Don't change for them. If you tell them you hate math and they love math, continue to hate math. People like someone who is true to his or her self. Remember no one wants to date themselves. Don't mirror their likes and dislikes because it won't work.
- Simply Be yourself, if he/she doesn't like you for being you, then there's no chance for a strong relationship.
- Try making a few jokes.If you get him or her to laugh, you will be more comfortable.
- Make sure you smell good when you're around her/him.
- Stay cool and confident, but don't act like a jerk.
- Remember that you have your whole life to find the perfect person. If someone's not into you, it just means they're not the right one.
Warnings
- Don't freak out.
- Don't follow/stalk him or her. You might get in trouble.
- If he/she doesn't seem to get used to you, then leave him/her alone for one day, and on the next day, go up to him/her again and change the topic.
- Your crush may not feel the same way about you. In that case, you have to move on. They may change their mind later, but you have to live your life.
- If you start freaking out, don't run away. Stay strong!
- Sometimes, asking a friend to tell your crush something is a bad idea, because it may be taken the wrong way. Don't get your friends to do/say anything for you. Do it yourself.
- Make sure that when you talk your voice isn't shaky and that you feel perfectly calm.
- Don't talk too much, or you might scare them off!
- Messing up in front of him/her may sound horrible, but guys/girls think its cute when you mess up.
- Don't bug them about it; you'll just creep them out, and you'll surely have an awkward relationship.
- He/she might make a big deal when you are talking to him/her, if that person really likes you, so stay relaxed.
- When you are telling him a story, don't talk about something weird, or a story such as about how you got your cat! Try something else, like the story when your dog knocked you over and ate your ice cream!
- If they look at you don't look back! It will just tell them you have a humongous crush on them.
- If you do something wrong and your crush is looking at you pretend they aren't there.
- Don't be all prissy and preppy.Just don't be all snobby.Guys really hate that!